What happened to my friend?

[ZOMG_A_RANCOR]

Ok, so all through my high school days, my friend and i were uuber close. We were like best buddies, and we also looked very similar. Most people actually though we were twins.

Anywase, in high school, my buddy had alcoholic parents, and said he would never drink because of how effed up his family was and he was also one of those no-sex-till-marriage types. He had this really hot, like 9.5/10 girlfriend, who was annoying, but still stomachable.

Anywase, we had a falling out thanks to a bad rock band party (him and a large group of my friends called 30 minutes before coming to confirm they were coming, and then 2 hours later, the call to say they decided to go out to dinner and not come) and i hadnt seen him for a year.

Finally, we all hang out again a year later, and he has this new girlfriend. Over the course of the night, i learn that not only does he now drink, but SHE got him drinking, and she is a HUGE drug addict, and they have sex like 24/7. On top of that, she is fugly as hell, and he met her at a wedding. A wedding of a girl he worked with and was fooling around with 3 days earlier.

I just dont get it. He used to be so different, and now he has completely changed for an uggo. I guess, im wondering...do you have any stories like this, and also, would you change your personality, for a total uggo?

EDIT: Im not against drinking or anything, everyone has their own choices, i drink a bit here and there. Just to clear that up.

[dariom94]

The same thing happened to my (old) friend, except my friend got involved with these cliques we have in philly that are a bunch of spoiled brats who think they're a gang, but he is a non-stop toker, and all he does is jump kids hang out in the park and brood..

[back_blows]

Sounds like Sid Vicious syndrome;)

[topperharley]

I just dont get it. He used to be so different, and now he has completely changed for an uggo. I guess, im wondering...do you have any stories like this, and also, would you change your personality, for a total uggo?

People change. If, other than the falling out you mentioned, you've been on good terms, then try and talk to him. Say: "Dude, what the ****? What the **** are you doing?" Maybe he's going through some issues and being a sexed up lush is how he's dealing with it. If he's open to help, then offer to help. If he's not, then you won't be able to help him. Which sucks. :(

And even if the girl were as hot as Miranda Kerr, Adriana Lima, and Marisa Miller all rolled into one, I wouldn't change my personality just to get the sex.

[A7x4RockBand]

I have only taken 1 psychology class but it sounds like something happened in that year for him to change his veiw of himself. Maybe something happened bad with that 9.5 girl that caused him to go into a depressive state. It is obvious that his morals has changed and more than likely his view of himself, either conciously or subconciously.

I suggest if you are still close to bring it up. Even if you arnt close than you could gradually mention it. Ask him what happened to that person he was and look for small clues in his answer. He isent going to be like "well this is what happen exactly" more like "dude im just how i wanna be. THAT 9.5 GIRL TRIED TO CHANGE ME. Dont worry about it." Then get him to talk about what happen or something.

[LZ_69]

Sounds like a normal teenager to me, just as long he doesn't get too much into drugs or if he can stay away from them altoguether all the better, not that alcohol is great either but still....I think your friend wil be fine in later years. People change you know, sometimes in a wink of an eye, especially at a young age, we are all trying to find out who we are and where we belong. I was pretty much like your friend, went through some bad times but eventually straitend myself out. If you think he is in real trouble try to get him some help, otherwise just be his friend as always.

Good luck.