Dear Frizz: Discussions of Romance and Heartbreak

[jonoo24]

She got over it fast.

Oh, darn, you seemed like a hot hunka man candy ;)

[DeadPhoenix223]

lolgomorrah-ylol

[xMySTiiKaL]

Here's the deal. There's these 3 girls, and they all flirt with me and I flirt with all of them. Usually on a daily basis since they're in several of my classes and sit near me at lunch. 1 is rumored to like another guy, 1 I asked out a few years ago and she said no, but we're super good friends now, and one is in the grade above me. I'm so confused on what to even do. I was just gonna wait a while and see what unfolded but since I saw this I decided to post my pathetic situation for people to lol at. Help is appreciated. (:

[jonoo24]

...and she hates me again. Cause i said i lied, to make it appear my fault, so she would feel better. She gets all pissed, saying i lied to get her to admit she likes me.

[DeadPhoenix223]

...and she hates me again. Cause i said i lied, to make it appear my fault, so she would feel better. She gets all pissed, saying i lied to get her to admit she likes me.

:rolleyes:girls:rolleyes:

How old are you? Like 14? I dont get the girlfriends/boyfriends thing until after you get a driver's liscense.

That's what I've decided, anyway.... No girlfriend until after i can drive them somewhere.

[jonoo24]

15. getting myy permit soon. Thats what i always planned. Then she came along.

[DeadPhoenix223]

15. getting myy permit soon. Thats what i always planned. Then she came along.

Oh... Okay. Yeah, "she" hasn't come to change my mind... You remember 13... The girls are all (w)itches.

[jonoo24]

I know what ya mean.

They still are, but when you hit puberty, they are the best and worst things.

[ffwarrior47]

I'm never gonna try to get a girlfriend until i'm married.

[DeadPhoenix223]

I know what ya mean.

They still are, but when you hit puberty, they are the best and worst things.

i already have... they're still...

[jonoo24]

to clear any misconceptions with you guys: I'm straight. Sorry.


i already have... They're still...

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[Cpt. Overkill]

I'm never going to try to get a girlfriend. It's blasphemous. Unless my mommy finds me one.

[HeyRiles]

Yeah I'm not gonna ask a girl out until I'm married to her. I want her to be pure

[TheCrimsonSaint]

I'm never gonna try to get a girlfriend until i'm married.

When I grow up and get married, I'm living alone! Do you hear me!? I'M LIVING ALOOOOOOOOONNNNNNNNEEEEE!!! :D

[Mex]

Yeah I'm not gonna ask a girl out until I'm married to her. I want her to be pure

While you're at it, see what you can do about some World Peace :)

[Ultimatum]

...and she hates me again. Cause i said i lied, to make it appear my fault, so she would feel better. She gets all pissed, saying i lied to get her to admit she likes me.

Jesus Christ, stop chasing her, she sounds like she has no control over her emotions and isn't mature at all.

[jonoo24]

I did. Were still friends, but i made it clear i wanted no more than that.

[DeadPhoenix223]

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im not saying they arent attractive, i'm saying they're extreemly emotional.

[HMXThrasher]

im not saying they arent attractive, i'm saying they're extreemly emotional.

Let's stop the gross generalisations about women and younger girls for now. If it continues we're going to have to close this thread. Please keep it on the topics at hand - relationship advice, joking around, etc.. is ok, but blanket statements about women or girls being pills etc... is not cool.

[bermuddy]

you shouldnt lie to make her feel better about herself. its almost as if you lie to have her feel better so someone tells her what you did and she thinks your some chivalrous knight.

[bood-boy]

the 12-14 year old who know everything about life because of their extensive life experience.

i knew way more when i was 12 than i do now.

[iamtheddrman]

Wow this thread has been dead for a week. How 'bout some advice? Here's my newest situation:

There's this girl that I've always thought was cute. We went to high school together, and she was a couple of years younger than me. A while back, we found each other on twitter somehow, and have since spoken a couple of times, more frequently lately. We've talked about a variety of things, and she's initiated conversation about as many times as I have. She's extremely intelligent (graduated college in 3.5 years) and has a belief system that lines up with mine. All in all, she seems like a great catch.

Two problems: 1) She is friends with my ex, with whom I did NOT have a good breakup. But that was a few years ago, and I don't think they're best friends or anything, more of just acquaintances. 2) She falls in what I call the "awkward zone". She's not a close enough friend for me to say something like "I really like you, blah blah blah let's go out", but I know her slightly too well to say something like "You intrigue me, I'd like to get to know you better. Dinner this weekend?"

I'm also not sure if she's going to be moving back to our hometown or not. She went to college in a town about 2 hours away, which isn't a huge deal to me, but may be to her. At any rate, how should I approach the situation? Should I continue to talk to her as much as possible and see where things go? Or should I go ahead and ask her out since I know she'll be home for Christmas?

[daftuprising]

Go out with her once or twice while she's in town and see how it goes. then post back here after that!

[iamtheddrman]

Go out with her once or twice while she's in town and see how it goes. then post back here after that!
LOL that's contingent upon her saying "Yes" if/when I actually ask her out :p

[iamtheddrman]

If you don't want to ask her out, why post here?
I never said I didn't want to. I was seeking advice as to how/when would be best to do so. I don't have her phone number, nor do I see her in person. Asking her out on twitter would just be weird, lol.

[iamtheddrman]

Yeah, creeping her on Facebook is the way to go.
Thanks for the useful advice :rolleyes:

[bermuddy]

is ddr creepin' chicks on FB again? :D

[LegendofRock3021]

Wow this thread has been dead for a week. How 'bout some advice? Here's my newest situation:

There's this girl that I've always thought was cute. We went to high school together, and she was a couple of years younger than me. A while back, we found each other on twitter somehow, and have since spoken a couple of times, more frequently lately. We've talked about a variety of things, and she's initiated conversation about as many times as I have. She's extremely intelligent (graduated college in 3.5 years) and has a belief system that lines up with mine. All in all, she seems like a great catch.

Two problems: 1) She is friends with my ex, with whom I did NOT have a good breakup. But that was a few years ago, and I don't think they're best friends or anything, more of just acquaintances. 2) She falls in what I call the "awkward zone". She's not a close enough friend for me to say something like "I really like you, blah blah blah let's go out", but I know her slightly too well to say something like "You intrigue me, I'd like to get to know you better. Dinner this weekend?"

I'm also not sure if she's going to be moving back to our hometown or not. She went to college in a town about 2 hours away, which isn't a huge deal to me, but may be to her. At any rate, how should I approach the situation? Should I continue to talk to her as much as possible and see where things go? Or should I go ahead and ask her out since I know she'll be home for Christmas?

That's a tough question to answer, but I'll try to give you some good feedback. If she's friends with your ex, but not really close/best friends with her, that would be in your favor for sure and increase your chances of taking her out. With the second problem, I think if you can figure out how to casually bring up the idea of you two doing something together without feeling awkward or anything, that would be the best way to go about it.

If you do like her a bit and may want to start relationship with her, I would suggest that you keep talking to her. At some point try to make it known that you do like her and want to do something together sometime, but in a casual kind of way, as hard as that may seem so it could be the least awkward situation for both of you. If she has a problem with being too far away from you, then there may not be anything you can do about that. But if she agrees to do something with you, then I say you go for it, you never know how it would've turned out if you never gave it a shot.

Now all that may not be the most sound advice, but I don't think you can pass this up if you do have feelings for her and think she'd be a great girlfriend. Hope that helps any ddr and good luck with whatever you plan on doing. :)

[iamtheddrman]

I'm just playing around, dude. Forums are srs bizns I guess.
I know dude. No worries.


is ddr creepin' chicks on FB again? :D
SHUT IT! lol

[bood-boy]

why dont u just cut the crap about what you think/feel before you ask and just say 'hey when ur in town we should get together.'
there no point in broadcasting what you think about her beforehand. when they know what you want or feel, thats when you lose.

[iamtheddrman]

why dont u just cut the crap about what you think/feel before you ask and just say 'hey when ur in town we should get together.'
there no point in broadcasting what you think about her beforehand. when they know what you want or feel, thats when you lose.
leave it to bood to say that! You know what? That's exactly what I'm going to do. No buildup, no BS, just laying it all out there. Thanks dude!

[LegendofRock3021]

leave it to bood to say that! You know what? That's exactly what I'm going to do. No buildup, no BS, just laying it all out there. Thanks dude!

That's the best way to do it IMO, you shouldn't wait and just go for it.

[bood-boy]

and dont use the word 'maybe' or 'if you want' or 'if your free'

[DrumStix]

I like this one girl, but I'm too embarrassed. :(

[bood-boy]

the only embarrassment you will truely face will be in the years to come when you look at yourself in the mirror and realize that you could have had her.

dont suffer that personal embarrassment.

[LegendofRock3021]

I like this one girl, but I'm too embarrassed. :(

Try to overcome that embarrassment and ask her to do something with you, if you don't you'll look back on it and probably regret it for a long time.

[DrumStix]

Try to overcome that embarrassment and ask her to do something with you, if you don't you'll look back on it and probably regret it for a long time.

You're right. :o

Thanks.

[LegendofRock3021]

You're right. :o

Thanks.

No problem, just do your best with it and hopefully things work out for you.

[DrumStix]

No problem, just do your best with it and hopefully things work out for you.

I'll try. :)

[iamtheddrman]

So I sent this girl a message late Thursday night. She has since been online, posting about being in town and seeing her friends. However, she hasn't responded to me. Now I'm trying to decide if I should try an alternate means to contact her (i.e. facebook) or if I should just let it go. There's a chance she didn't even see the message, but if she did and chose not to respond, it's pointless to ask again. Bummer.

[daftuprising]

no harm in trying again

[Elegy]

I really doubt this goes anywhere, but I'm liking this one girl whose one of those "take it slow" kind of girls. Which, I'm totally into not moving fast, but the thing is, it seems to be incredibly hard to get on her radar. I mean, she's social in person and all, but when it comes to texting or facebook, it's normally me initiating the conversation, which I don't really think is a good thing.

Also, as a side note, has anyone ever experienced this? -

With like three girls I've liked [including the first time I liked this current one], we'd text a lot and whatever, and if I figured something that was negative in the potential relationship [for one, a girl I talked to actually had a boyfriend when she was being uber flirtatious with her texts, another, a girl just seemed disenterested...], I would text and stop, allowing them to respond. Well, in all of these instances, they NEVER attempted to reconnect. Fast forward a couple of weeks, and they either get angry or think I'm angry because I don't talk to them...

[iamtheddrman]

Tried facebook, still no response. Chalking this one up as a defeat. I will remain her friend, and nothing more.

This is sounding very familiar...

[DrumStix]

Tried facebook, still no response. Chalking this one up as a defeat. I will remain her friend, and nothing more.

This is sounding very familiar...


Don' worry, my friend.

There's plenty more fish in da sea. ;)

Still haven't been able tot alk to that one girl I like. :(

She lives in a different town than mine.

[iamtheddrman]

Yeah, but when you're my age, those fish are quickly disappearing. The only ones that seem to be left were apparently spawned near a nuclear power plant.

[DrumStix]

Yeah, but when you're my age, those fish are quickly disappearing. The only ones that seem to be left were apparently spawned near a nuclear power plant.

How old are you? :confused:

[iamtheddrman]

How old are you? :confused:
23, lol. Around here, most girls get married fresh out of college, so the only ones left are the crazy ones that guys didn't want. Oh well, it'll happen when it happens.

[ArchangelZero]

Yeah, but when you're my age, those fish are quickly disappearing. The only ones that seem to be left were apparently spawned near a nuclear power plant.

And this is why you move to a big city after college.

[Explosion2]

Dangit all my friends are joining facebook groups that are like "I only stay up late to talk to you."

It makes me sad that I don't have someone like that.

[Cpt. Overkill]

Then... go find somebody like that?

[Explosion2]

yes. That's the plan.

[iamtheddrman]

And this is why you move to a big city after college.
I live in a metro area of around 375,000 people. It's not a huge city, but it's no small town. It's just rare to meet a girl with the same values as me these days, and even harder to find a girl with those values who is single and interested in me, lol.

[Soratar]

I really doubt this goes anywhere, but I'm liking this one girl whose one of those "take it slow" kind of girls. Which, I'm totally into not moving fast, but the thing is, it seems to be incredibly hard to get on her radar. I mean, she's social in person and all, but when it comes to texting or facebook, it's normally me initiating the conversation, which I don't really think is a good thing.

You're just like me. Literally, everything you posted is just like me. I really need to get better at that, because, as most posters here know, I end up missing out.

[Explosion2]

Is it a good idea to ask a girl's friend what the girl in question thinks of me?

When I say it like that, it sounds like a good idea, but I keep thinking that doing something like this could horribly backfire somehow.

[DrumStix]

How old are you? :confused:

16 here.

[Mex]

I live in a metro area of around 375,000 people. It's not a huge city, but it's no small town. It's just rare to meet a girl with the same values as me these days, and even harder to find a girl with those values who is single and interested in me, lol.

I've lived in a metro area of over 5 million for my entire adult life and found it hard to find a good one. I mean, I had to look to a whole other country to find the best one out there.

So yeah, move.

[Ultimatum]

You're just like me. Literally, everything you posted is just like me. I really need to get better at that, because, as most posters here know, I end up missing out.

Because you never take your shot.


Is it a good idea to ask a girl's friend what the girl in question thinks of me?

When I say it like that, it sounds like a good idea, but I keep thinking that doing something like this could horribly backfire somehow.

Only if you're pretty good friends with her friend. You could always have a friend of yours ask her friend that knows her as well, that's worked for me in the past.

[LegendofRock3021]

Because you never take your shot.

Agreed, sometimes you just have to throw caution to the wind and take action.

[iamtheddrman]

There is a 100% rejection rate on chances you don't take.
This. Or if your username is "iamtheddrman" :p

[aggiesrul8]

Sometimes, you really do have to throw all inhibitions out the door and make a move. Although it is much easier to say you will do it here on the teh interwebz, it really is in your best interest to make a move.

If you never get off the sidelines, you will never be the super-star. For example, take folks at the local bar scene/dance/whatever event of your choosing. I would wager that most are generally pretty self-conscious about approaching the people they do not know of the other sex (although alcohol greatly reduces this feeling). The problem is not that you 'want' to talk to them, it is 'how' you will talk to them (and thus, what they will think of you). Always remember, you must swing the bat to hit a HR....

[bermuddy]

I don't want to get married when my girlfriend graduates college!!

i dont want to get married until my GF gets a real job.

[Mex]

i dont want to get married until my GF gets a real job.

Do you guys live together?

[bermuddy]

nope.

[bood-boy]

I live in a metro area of around 375,000 people. It's not a huge city, but it's no small town. It's just rare to meet a girl with the same values as me these days, and even harder to find a girl with those values who is single and interested in me, lol.

hahahha cry me a river! 350,000 people to choose from!

[Mex]

nope.

Would you try that first?

I've heard it's a good idea from some, and others have said it doesn't make a difference. I'd lean to living together for a while before popping the question.

[bood-boy]

a guy i work with got married then they live together after marriage. ots only been like 3 weeks tho so i dunno how it ends up working out.

word on the street is gurls get crazier once they live with you. then they get even crazier once your married to em. so i can only imagine the spike in craziness if you get married and move in one foul swoop.

[Mex]

Spikes of craziness should definitely be considered. I feel bad for dudes that find out too late. Tis unfortunate.

[bood-boy]

thats why VCR's are better than marriage
they have an EJECT button.

[iamtheddrman]

So, what? Did she not answer you at all? I hope she had the balls to say no if she is rejecting you.
No, it was as I suspected: she hadn't seen my message yet. She said she wants to get together while she's in town now. I guess I called it a defeat too quickly! :)

[bermuddy]

mex, we've been dating for over 8 years and we spend a lot of tim together. i cant envision it being much different than it is now.

[bermuddy]

my GF lives 5-10 mins away depending on traffic and it's all down the same street. i see her everyday for many hours.

[bood-boy]

that was supposed to be in WAYDRN.

[Mex]

mex, we've been dating for over 8 years and we spend a lot of tim together. i cant envision it being much different than it is now.


my GF lives 5-10 mins away depending on traffic and it's all down the same street. i see her everyday for many hours.

I'm not arguing man, but people have told me it IS different. Same type of thing, together for years, hang out every day. Live together and all of a sudden they're like...WHOA...who is this person?

I'm sure it depends on the people involved.

[bermuddy]

youre right. she broke my a/c and now i want to break her face! RRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGEEEEEEEEEE!

[bood-boy]

thats what i thought when i saw broot at the pound i thought 'hey hed be a nice dog to bring home i bet we'd live together in harmony' then one night in the middle of the night he pooped all over my bed. like, sprayed.

moral of the story: things change once u live together when u wake up to crap stains in ur bed.

[Dante1847]

thats what i thought when i saw broot at the pound i thought 'hey hed be a nice dog to bring home i bet we'd live together in harmony' then one night in the middle of the night he pooped all over my bed. like, sprayed.

moral of the story: things change once u live together when u wake up to crap stains in ur bed.

uhm, Im wondering whether this story applies literally or figuratively in your case. if its the former, right on!

[RockBandRocker]

So, it took me awhile, but I have finally realized and accepted that he is a major d**k that isn't worth my time!!

[iamtheddrman]

So, it took me awhile, but I have finally realized and accepted that he is a major d**k that isn't worth my time!!
Congrats! It's about time dude :p

Still waiting to hear back from the girl. We are definitely going out at some point during the break, but we don't have a specific date nailed down yet. Hopefully I'll hear back tomorrow.

[Masquerade]

^^ **** yeah!!!

[RockBandRocker]

Congrats! It's about time dude :p


^^ **** yeah!!!


Thanks for the all the support guys.


Yeah, he pulled a major d**k move (I won't go into details here) the other day, and it really caused me to re-evaluate everything I thought about him.

[HeyRiles]

Thanks for the all the support guys.


Yeah, he pulled a major d**k move (I won't go into details here) the other day, and it really caused me to re-evaluate everything I thought about him.

Haha, you've told us a number of times that he's been a pretty big d*ck before

Glad you finally realize it though, good on you!

[RockBandRocker]

Thanks, Riles.

[plague]

I need some advice. I feel like I have no room in my life for a new girl friend right now.

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Because my freezers are full! :)

I in no way endorse killing your significant other. This was a joke and an illustration of the pros of dating skinny people. Also, an illustration of why you should not date anyone that asks how many cubic feet you are. Also, joking about killing girls is a big turn off for most of them, but I don't care cause it's the Internet and you all aren't real anyway.

In reality, I can't pick between the hot girl with four daughters or the less hot one with none that are both pursuing me. It has nothing to do with freezer size, though. They both like my dark sense of humor, btw.

[bood-boy]

is there enough space in the freezer for the mom and all 4 daughters?

[daftuprising]

I need some advice. I feel like I have no room in my life for a new girl friend right now.

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Because my freezers are full! :)

I in no way endorse killing your significant other. This was a joke and an illustration of the pros of dating skinny people. Also, an illustration of why you should not date anyone that asks how many cubic feet you are. Also, joking about killing girls is a big turn off for most of them, but I don't care cause it's the Internet and you all aren't real anyway.

In reality, I can't pick between the hot girl with four daughters or the less hot one with none that are both pursuing me. It has nothing to do with freezer size, though. They both like my dark sense of humor, btw.

I don't like you.

[plague]

I don't like you.

Thanks for letting me know how you feel about me.

If anyone's been affected by a gruesome murder or otherwise traumatic incident involving freezers, I apologize for any hard feelings triggered by my fun.

[daftuprising]

Thanks for letting me know how you feel about me.

If anyone's been affected by a gruesome murder or otherwise traumatic incident involving freezers, I apologize for any hard feelings triggered by my fun.
Nothing you've ever posted has been funny.

But to kinda get conversation started back in this thread, what did everyone get their significant other for the holidays?

[HeyRiles]

I made a bracelet and sent a Christmas card :D

[bermuddy]

i bought her tickets to see a Play, tickets for a concert, a cell phone cover, cell phone car charger, jeans, and 2 bottles of perfume she likes.

if she decides to join the forums today she'll ruin christmas.

[bood-boy]

plague, i really like you, so who cares what other ppl say.

you got the messiah on ur side brother man.

[daftuprising]

I bought my girl a necklace with her birthstone in it (Sapphire), and a chick-flick. She was very happy.

[iamtheddrman]

I heard back from the girl again. Got her phone number now, and we're getting together sometime before New Year's. I'm hoping she'll be in town for New Year's so we could spend it together. If not, then it's not a huge deal, but it would be fun.

/microupdate

[plague]

plague, i really like you, so who cares what other ppl say.

you got the messiah on ur side brother man.

Thanks. You made my day. :)

[tridentgum0]

I bought my girl a necklace with her birthstone in it (Sapphire), and a chick-flick. She was very happy.

People with September birthdays are awesome. You have a good find. ;)

[daftuprising]

People with September birthdays are awesome. You have a good find. ;)

We are both September, 9 days apart.

[Mex]

I heard back from the girl again. Got her phone number now, and we're getting together sometime before New Year's. I'm hoping she'll be in town for New Year's so we could spend it together. If not, then it's not a huge deal, but it would be fun.

/microupdate

You gotta seal the deal buddy. SEAL IT.

[Masquerade]

People with September birthdays are awesome. You have a good find. ;)

Everyone knows that amethyst > sapphire; February is where it's at.

[RockBandRocker]

Everyone knows that amethyst > sapphire; February is where it's at.

Diamond > all; April in the house!!

[Masquerade]

Y'all are in denial.

So, I had my whole fam-jam Christmas celebration and my cousin's boyfriend was there, and my other cousin was talkin' to her boyfran' VIA phone/skypeeee. I NEED A MAN.

[RockBandRocker]

So, I had my whole fam-jam Christmas celebration and my cousin's boyfriend was there, and my other cousin was talkin' to her boyfran' VIA phone/skypeeee. I NEED A MAN.

Preach on, sister! :D

[Masquerade]

Hahaha, okay...I don't need a man. It'd sure be nice to have one though.

[ffwarrior47]

Hahaha, okay...I don't need a man. It'd sure be nice to have one though.

Cheayeah, U go gurl! *snaps three times in a Z shape and puckers lips*

[RockBandRocker]

Hahaha, okay...I don't need a man. It'd sure be nice to have one though.

Sisters are doing it for themselves! Standing on their own two feet and ringing their own bells!! :D

[tridentgum0]

Hahaha, okay...I don't need a man. It'd sure be nice to have one though.

*raises hand*

[Cpt. Overkill]

I saw her first.

[tridentgum0]

Second is better.

[HeyRiles]

I didn't see either of you getting her a Christmas present

[tridentgum0]

I'm broke. :(

[Cpt. Overkill]

I didn't see either of you getting her a Christmas present

Awwwwww. You're so sweet.

[DrumStix]

I heard back from the girl again. Got her phone number now, and we're getting together sometime before New Year's. I'm hoping she'll be in town for New Year's so we could spend it together. If not, then it's not a huge deal, but it would be fun.

/microupdate

Woot.

Hope things work out for you both. :)

[iamtheddrman]

You gotta seal the deal buddy. SEAL IT.
I'm planning on it! This girl is too awesome to pass up, so there's no way I'm letting this one pass me by. I have no doubt that I'll be able to sweep her off her feet given then chance ;)

Think a rose is too much for a first date? :p


Woot.

Hope things work out for you both. :)
Thanks!

[plague]

Think a rose is too much for a first date? :p

Don't do red.

[Masquerade]

Think a rose is too much for a first date? :p

No, not at all. Give her a promise ring while you're at it.

[iamtheddrman]

No, not at all. Give her a promise ring while you're at it.
Should I pop the question after dinner?

[Masquerade]

Before dinner.

[ArchangelZero]

Should I pop the question after dinner?

In the middle of or after dinner.

[Masquerade]

Don't listen to AZ.

[iamtheddrman]

Yellow rose with red tip, yes? Friendship+Love FTW? :)

[Lily_Mu]

This thread is about to come in handy...

[goodbyetonight]

I just lost the love of my life (left me) after over two years of dating. I honestly wish I was dead right now. I think it would hurt less.

[Soratar]

I just lost the love of my life after over two years of dating. I honestly wish I was dead right now. I think it would hurt less.

I'm really sorry for that. That must be unbelievably painful to go through. I hope that it never happens to me.

[LegendofRock3021]

I just lost the love of my life (left me) after over two years of dating. I honestly wish I was dead right now. I think it would hurt less.

Very sorry to hear that, I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. I just hope you feel better as soon as you can and wish you the best.

[iamtheddrman]

*sigh*

I've been talking to this girl off an on for two months, and not ONCE has she mentioned that she has a boyfriend. This freaking sucks.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

*sigh*

I've been talking to this girl off an on for two months, and not ONCE has she mentioned that she has a boyfriend. This freaking sucks.

Lame. If there's a silver lining there, it could be that she didn't mention him because she doesn't think about him very much.

[Elegy]

*sigh*

I've been talking to this girl off an on for two months, and not ONCE has she mentioned that she has a boyfriend. This freaking sucks.

I know the feeling.

Had great, awesome conversations with a girl in the summer. Totally flirtatious facebook messaging and texting [I thought]..and when I pull the trigger and ask her on a date, she had to make sure we wouldn't be alone. fml.

sorry bro.

[RockBandRocker]

*sigh*

I've been talking to this girl off an on for two months, and not ONCE has she mentioned that she has a boyfriend. This freaking sucks.

That sucks, man! :(

[Elegy]

That ****ing sucks, bro. You too, DDR.

funny thing was...that was my first *real* attempt at setting up a relationship after my heart was completely shattered at the beginning of summer.

And the entire time, I just felt that it was really going to work out with this girl. That's what I get for being optimistic I guess.

I don't even really like anyone right now. I don't really know why.

[Elegy]

ah. haha. sorry man.

[LegendofRock3021]

*sigh*

I've been talking to this girl off an on for two months, and not ONCE has she mentioned that she has a boyfriend. This freaking sucks.

That really sucks, DDR, sorry to hear that.

[RockBandRocker]

DDR needs a bro hug and a night out at the bar! :D

[Ultimatum]

Yeah, so my gf just broke up with me over the phone after ****ing leading me on for two weeks and making all sorts of plans, I'm pretty angry right now.

[LegendofRock3021]

Yeah, so my gf just broke up with me over the phone after ****ing leading me on for two weeks and making all sorts of plans, I'm pretty angry right now.

That's really ****ed up to say the least, very sorry to hear that.

[RockBandRocker]

Go listen to Good Apollo, I'm Burning Star IV - Volume I: From Fear Through The Eyes Of Madness by Coheed and Cambria.

[Ultimatum]

That's really ****ed up to say the least, very sorry to hear that.

Yeah, I'm pretty upset about it to say the least, she's pretty emotionally immature and her friend told me that she isn't ready for relationships emotionally but keeps getting involved in them anyway. Of course I always end up attracting and getting attracted to these sorts of people. Bleh, I can't wait for college where nice people like me are given a fair shake instead of always being handed the short end of the stick.

Already got that covered RockBandRocker, nothing but Nick Cave, The Mountain Goats, Bright Eyes, and possibly some Joy Division for the next few weeks.

[RockBandRocker]

Bleh, I can't wait for college where nice people like me are given a fair shake instead of always being handed the short end of the stick.

Already got that covered RockBandRocker, nothing but Nick Cave, The Mountain Goats, Bright Eyes, and possibly some Joy Division for the next few weeks.

Oh...you poor fool! :(

I'm sorry to tell you, it doesn't get any better in college.



Also, that Co&Ca album is great for what you're going through. You should really check it out.

And, if I may, might I recommend checking out the music of The Smiths. :D

[Ultimatum]

Meh, people tend to be more emotionally mature at least, it seems I only attract those less mature than me so far, I have no idea why.

[iamtheddrman]

Thanks everyone. I'm not TOO upset about it. It's just one of those things where I was thinking it was too good to be true... and it was.

Whatever, I'm stilling hanging out with her tomorrow. She's fun to be around and I wouldn't mind having her as a friend. It would have the added bonus of hanging out with some cool people I hung out with in high school, but haven't seen much lately.

[bermuddy]

ddr, you should tell her that you dont care if she has a BF, and ask her out anyway. be a bad boy. then break her heart like a scoundrel!

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Meh, people tend to be more emotionally mature at least, it seems I only attract those less mature than me so far, I have no idea why.

So not only do we look alike, but we have similar thoughts and experiences in this area.

Creepy.

[Ultimatum]

So not only do we look alike, but we have similar thoughts and experiences in this area.

Creepy.

Yeah, to be fair I sort of fell for it too. Live and learn, I'm never dating a girl like her again, even if I know it's going to be a short one, they just don't really think and know about emotions. She was one of the funniest girls I had met and was a lot of fun, but I have a hard time not being too serious of a person, and that was something we never really connected on, I couldn't be serious with her at all. I sorta realized that we never clicked at all, we tried making out and I sorta just stopped because it didn't really feel right. It's all really just **** on a checklist for her and really something more personal to me.

Anywho, an update. Today was the first day of class, and it was awkward as hell. I moved my chair because I used to sit next to her and sat next to some of my friends, which are her friends as well. Whenever I talked to them, she'd look away and ignore it. As soon as I wasn't involved, she'd talk to them, and as soon as I came back, she'd look away.

I think she's mad at me for no reason at all really. She told me when we broke up that she can't really talk to people she knows are mad at her, but this is kinda ridiculous. I'm not really looking to be friends unless if she's going to put some effort into it (ie her making some contact instead of me making all the contact), but it's surprising to see her act in this way, I was trying to be friendly, even though I still am somewhat upset with her, I didn't want it to be like that.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Yo dudes, if this thread ain't dead yet I could use some advice. There's this girl I hang out with sometimes, and she's cool and cute and all that good stuff, but she's not exactly the most mature girl in the world. Usually I can't stand immature girls, but I think that she's pretty funny and then there's the whole "she's really cute" thing, too. So basically, what I'm asking is, if I find out that she likes me, should I bother trying to be with her and see if it works out or go with my gut and just not get in a relationship with her?

[Ultimatum]

Do you have any idea how long her feelings for a guy usually last?

That's the mistake I made, I thought I could change that girl since I was so different from everyone else she dated.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Do you have any idea how long her feelings for a guy usually last?

That's the mistake I made, I thought I could change that girl since I was so different from everyone else she dated.

Well, that's one of the things I've considered... She doesn't seem like the type who would stay in a relationship for long, but I've thought that about certain girls before and then seen them stay in relationships for a number of months. Of course, I could never make sense of those at all because the guys they dated almost always treated them like ****.

[Ultimatum]

Yeah, it's somewhat difficult to find out. I just sorta knew that the girl I was with was a one-month sorta person (she liked two different guys over a period of two or three months before we got together), but got involved anyway.

The fun ones always seem to be like that too, at least in our age group.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Yeah, she's definitely fun to be with, but I'm not looking for something that's only going to last a month and I'm most definitely not going to waste my time being with somebody who can't grasp a deep relationship (cuz I'm not looking for any of the typical high school puppy love crap).

I'm probably being too negative about this, but I can't help it.

[Ultimatum]

Well, how long do you have until you get shipped off to college?

Also, keep in mind, I might not be the best source of information at the moment, I'm still somewhat bitter.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Your bitterness helps my bitterness feel justified. So no worries there.

As for college, I ship off in August... which just makes me want to avoid relationships in general. What happens if it turns out to be a good one and lasts and everything's cool... and then August 15th rolls around and my better judgement will inevitably tell me that it has to be broken off. I wouldn't want to put either of us through that.

[Ultimatum]

Yeah, then there are ultimately a few situations.

First, she's exactly as you expected, you get hurt.

Second, she's exactly as you expected, you somehow don't get too attached, you don't get hurt.

Third, she's not as you expected, you go off to college, possibly meet someone you like better, might end up hurting her in the process.

Fourth, as you said, she's not as you expected, but you break it off before college because more serious people will be there.

Fifth, not as expected, you both decide to break it off mutually before you leave.

I'm not even going to bring the whole "she's the one" scenario, because that's obviously not the case here.

I feel the first two scenarios are most likely. I'd say wait until she makes a move of some sort, you sound content at the moment. If she makes a move, then it's a whole different ball game.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Yeah, then there are ultimately a few situations.

First, she's exactly as you expected, you get hurt.

Second, she's exactly as you expected, you somehow don't get too attached, you don't get hurt.

Third, she's not as you expected, you go off to college, possibly meet someone you like better, might end up hurting her in the process.

Fourth, as you said, she's not as you expected, but you break it off before college because more serious people will be there.

Fifth, not as expected, you both decide to break it off mutually before you leave.

I'm not even going to bring the whole "she's the one" scenario, because that's obviously not the case here.

I feel the first two scenarios are most likely. I'd say wait until she makes a move of some sort, you sound content at the moment. If she makes a move, then it's a whole different ball game.

That's quite the answer, and it makes sense to me. A lot of sense. Thank you, kind sir, you have (for the moment, at least) eased my mind quite sufficiently.

[Ultimatum]

Yeah, you have to be careful about the move though, because I just realized that was what happened to me.

It has to be in person, and sincere. Her trying for a kiss would be a good indication, or at the very least her saying that she likes you. My ex told me that she really liked me over a text a few times and look where I ended, so you have to be cautious, make sure it's sincere since you are looking for something more after all.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

As a general rule, relationship topics are not usually brought up via text or phone conversations. At least, not in my group of friends.

[Ultimatum]

Yeah, well I had had a dry spell for about 9 months, and I had planned on asking her out soon anyway so that's just the way things worked. I broke a few of my own rules that time, and I probably shouldn't have. I guess I learned how much text messages really don't mean compared to actual personal communication, however, so there's that. We also broke up over the phone after she led me on for two weeks, and had many opportunities to do so before hand, so she just sort of lacked character to begin with.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

I try not to pressure myself with things like "dry spells". If I'm not going to be happy with the relationship, I avoid it. I've had fairly good judgement in the past, so hopefully it continues.

[The Highway To Hell]

I'm in a bit of a late night crisis right now. I'm going to try to ask out the girl that I have had a crush on for about 2 months to the upcoming dance. Unfortunantly for me it's easier said than done. Me being the nervous person I am, I have a terrible history of asking out girls.


I have asked out one girl in my entire life. That was about 5 months ago, and it wasn't pretty. I'm going to try to ask this girl out tomorrow, I've already sworn I'm going to do it. I guess I just need a bit luck from someone. I just need someone to support me on this, because I can't chicken out on this one. The part I'm scarred about is that if she says no, than our whole friendship will become extremely awkward like the last time I asked out a girl.

I just need someone to say "you can do it". That would really help me out. Because I'm worried as hell right now.

[Daemius]

I'm in a bit of a late night crisis right now. I'm going to try to ask out the girl that I have had a crush on for about 2 months to the upcoming dance. Unfortunantly for me it's easier said than done. Me being the nervous person I am, I have a terrible history of asking out girls.


I have asked out one girl in my entire life. That was about 5 months ago, and it wasn't pretty. I'm going to try to ask this girl out tomorrow, I've already sworn I'm going to do it. I guess I just need a bit luck from someone. I just need someone to support me on this, because I can't chicken out on this one. The part I'm scarred about is that if she says no, than our whole friendship will become extremely awkward like the last time I asked out a girl.

I just need someone to say "you can do it". That would really help me out. Because I'm worried as hell right now.

You can do it! Just be confident. Girls like confidence. Don't beat around the bush either. Just be like "I dig you, lets go out sometime" not like "Heh, um, you're really nice, and i really like you, and uh, yeah"

[bermuddy]

if you go through life afraid of what might happen youre going to miss out on a lot.

[plague]

One is not supposed to ask one's friends out. One is supposed to ask them out on first meet, then if it doesn't work out or they're not interested, become friends. Well, it's easier that way, anyway. One can't keep one's wanting to go out with someone a secret while friends and then just pop out with it from left field one day. This does spell disaster.

[RidethePiggy]

I've been dating for so long with short breaks in between that I forgot what it's like to be single.

[bood-boy]

i dont talk about stuff in here anymore.
this thread is 99% about failures.

[RidethePiggy]

i dont talk about stuff in here anymore.
this thread is 99% about failures.

Isn't that why most of the people online are online?

[aggiesrul8]

i dont talk about stuff in here anymore.
this thread is 99% about failures.

Bad news sells. ;)

[bood-boy]

im at work, otherwise im watching hockey or playing video games or hanging with buddies. but yes, thats a major reason ;)

[RidethePiggy]

im at work, otherwise im watching hockey or playing video games or hanging with buddies. but yes, thats a major reason ;)

Work is my excuse as well. Once Friday night hits I don't even see the internet unless I'm on my 360.

[bood-boy]

i do. hockey pools and msn.

[Ultimatum]

One is not supposed to ask one's friends out. One is supposed to ask them out on first meet, then if it doesn't work out or they're not interested, become friends. Well, it's easier that way, anyway. One can't keep one's wanting to go out with someone a secret while friends and then just pop out with it from left field one day. This does spell disaster.

That only really happened to me once and it was a girl asking me to Sadie's.

Other than that, I usually know people first, that's mostly due to me being shy and not really able to make conversation with someone unless if I've known them for a while. But it's probably easier to avoid the friend zone using your method.

I've tried it on a few people, and I just flat out didn't really talk to them or pursue friendship after that.

[bood-boy]

oh god... the dreaded first hang out, followed by the realization its not proper, followed by their many attempts at second contact. then u really get to see the psycho side come out and ur sooo happy that initial contact didnt go over well. on of the the biggest sighs of relief is when this happens and you got urself out before it got too dirty.

[DrumStix]

Got crushed today. :(

[jonoo24]

Alright, i have a dilemma. I like this girl, and she likes me, but she doesn't want to date because "we might lose our friendship" We've been friends for a while.

Enter girl #2, I actually have classes with her, I'm pretty confidant she likes me, she asked me to go watch her play soccer, and she's pretty cute and funny.

Oh, yeah, Girl #1 still has an ex-boyfriend who is still obsessed with her.

[BallisticJunkfood]

If Girl #1 doesn't want to date, then I'm guessing that there's nothing you can do about it. Go with Girl #2.

[tridentgum0]

Go with whichever one is cuter. Be a real man.

[DrumStix]

^

@Jonoo

What they said.

[Banky71]

Why do the girls you like sound like bathroom codes?

[DrumStix]

Why do the girls you like sound like bathroom codes?


Bahahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!

[Explosion2]

or the choices in a game show?

[Ultimatum]

Alright, i have a dilemma. I like this girl, and she likes me, but she doesn't want to date because "we might lose our friendship" We've been friends for a while.

Enter girl #2, I actually have classes with her, I'm pretty confidant she likes me, she asked me to go watch her play soccer, and she's pretty cute and funny.

Oh, yeah, Girl #1 still has an ex-boyfriend who is still obsessed with her.

Girl 1 may eventually come to her senses, probably after getting hurt by a dude though. Don't write her off for good, but don't focus on her.

Girl 2 sounds like fun if that's really all you care about.

[Banky71]

I'm glad all the girls I hang out with have names and I don't have to refer to them as #1(pee) and #2(poop)

[jonoo24]

She is alot of fun.

See, i never ever talk to "Marcy" at school though, because she has 2nd lunch, and all of the wrong classes.

[Banky71]

Wait I'm confused now...does she have lunch with #2?

[jonoo24]

Wait I'm confused now...does she have lunch with #2?

No, there are two lunch shifts at school, A lunch, which is first, and B lunch, which is second.

Me and "Carli" (#2) have A lunch, while "Marcy" has B lunch.

[Banky71]

No, there are two lunch shifts at school, A lunch, which is first, and B lunch, which is second.

Me and "Carli" (#2) have A lunch, while "Marcy" has B lunch.

B lunch sounds a lot tastier than A lunch.

[tridentgum0]

No, there are two lunch shifts at school, A lunch, which is first, and B lunch, which is second.

Me and "Carli" (#2) have A lunch, while "Marcy" has B lunch.

Only two shifts? You either have a much smaller number of students than my school or an exponentially larger cafeteria.

[jonoo24]

B lunch sounds a lot tastier than A lunch.

In isn't, there are like 2x as many in A.

Trident, around 2000 kids. The caf. is connected to the main building, so people can pretty much go every where they want, and the pizza/burger line is outside as well as the chicken line.

[Banky71]

In isn't, there are like 2x as many in A.

Doesn't A mean ass?

[jonoo24]

...no?

[tridentgum0]

In isn't, there are like 2x as many in A.

Trident, around 2000 kids. The caf. is connected to the main building, so people can pretty much go every where they want, and the pizza/burger line is outside as well as the chicken line.

My school has 2400 students and 4 lunch shifts.

[jonoo24]

My school has 2400 students and 4 lunch shifts.

How many high schools are there in your county?

[Banky71]

Oh. I guess I have been out of school a long long tim. Why the hell settle for one girl? Date them both. Why are people so obsessed with pairing off? It's 2010 and you are young. Date as many people as humanly possible!

[jonoo24]

Oh. I guess I have been out of school a long long tim. Why the hell settle for one girl? Date them both. Why are people so obsessed with pairing off? It's 2010 and you are young. Date as many people as humanly possible!

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

Then i would seem like a dick, and no one would want me!

[tridentgum0]

How many high schools are there in your county?

4, a 5th is opening next year.

[jonoo24]

4, a 5th is opening next year.

dayum.

You live by Atlanta?

[BallisticJunkfood]

the pizza/burger line is outside as well as the chicken line.

Lol, high school lunch. I'm so glad I don't have to eat that crap anymore.

[Banky71]

hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha.

Then i would seem like a dick, and no one would want me!

Just be honest. It works for me!

[tridentgum0]

dayum.

You live by Atlanta?

Nope. I'm a good 90 minutes South. We have a huge military population though.

[jonoo24]

http://funnyjunk.com/funny_pictures/171476/The+girl+you+like/

[Ultimatum]

Oh. I guess I have been out of school a long long tim. Why the hell settle for one girl? Date them both. Why are people so obsessed with pairing off? It's 2010 and you are young. Date as many people as humanly possible!

Yeah, I wish I could feel that way.

That's something that sucks about my situation. I'm young (17), still in high school, know exactly who I am and pretty much what I'm looking for, but the people I've dated aren't exactly as mature as me. Worst part is that there aren't really any people that are "my people" at my school except for my close friends. The girls that seem to have the traits I like are ones that are in my friend-zone. I acknowledge that they'd probably have what I'm looking for, but for some reason I have no interest in dating them.

[frizzy_bj]

Alright, i have a dilemma. I like this girl, and she likes me, but she doesn't want to date because "we might lose our friendship" We've been friends for a while.

Enter girl #2, I actually have classes with her, I'm pretty confidant she likes me, she asked me to go watch her play soccer, and she's pretty cute and funny.

Oh, yeah, Girl #1 still has an ex-boyfriend who is still obsessed with her.

Girl #2 sounds like a better bet simply because she has already asked you to hang out and watch her play soccer. I am not saying that this is a surefire way of knowing that she likes you, but it is definitely a step in the right direction. :)


Yeah, I wish I could feel that way.

That's something that sucks about my situation. I'm young (17), still in high school, know exactly who I am and pretty much what I'm looking for, but the people I've dated aren't exactly as mature as me. Worst part is that there aren't really any people that are "my people" at my school except for my close friends. The girls that seem to have the traits I like are ones that are in my friend-zone. I acknowledge that they'd probably have what I'm looking for, but for some reason I have no interest in dating them.

That doesn't really suck in my opinion. It just means that you have standards that most 17 year olds don't seem to possess. Just make sure you maintain those standards and never let them slide for anyone. Someone awesome will come around eventually. It just takes a lot of patience and determination.:)

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Nope. I'm a good 90 minutes South. We have a huge military population though.

It's weird hearing you guys talk about that sort of thing like those are large numbers. That's small beans where I live.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

That doesn't really suck in my opinion. It just means that you have standards that most 17 year olds don't seem to possess. Just make sure you maintain those standards and never let them slide for anyone. Someone awesome will come around eventually. It just takes a lot of patience and determination.:)

It's nice to hear (see?) someone say that, because I'm the same as Ult in that regard but I usually just get a lot of **** from idiot people (read: my entire school population) about how my standards are ridiculous and that I'll never find a girlfriend unless I relax them.

[tridentgum0]

You back the **** off. Now. ;)

[TheCrimsonSaint]

You guys are soooooo hilarious. :rolleyes::D

[jonoo24]

Yes, CHILD?!

[HeyRiles]

It's nice to hear (see?) someone say that, because I'm the same as Ult in that regard but I usually just get a lot of **** from idiot people (read: my entire school population) about how my standards are ridiculous and that I'll never find a girlfriend unless I relax them.

No, it's great to have high standards. If you have low standards, you aren't sure just what you really want (i.e., my ex girlfriend who's gone through I think six boys now). Having high standards lands you a girl that you just KNOW is a great girl when you start liking her, and knowing is a heckuva lot better than thinking


Yes, CHILD?!

Bman isn't looking for an understudy, jonoo

[TheCrimsonSaint]

No, it's great to have high standards. If you have low standards, you aren't sure just what you really want (i.e., my ex girlfriend who's gone through I think six boys now). Having high standards lands you a girl that you just KNOW is a great girl when you start liking her, and knowing is a heckuva lot better than thinking

It's incredibly frustrating for me, I'll admit. My standards in the physical department and the personality department seem to never match up with anyone.

Is it odd that I don't feel like I really set my standards? What I mean is, I feel like they were set for me.

[jonoo24]

Bman isn't looking for an understudy, jonoo

I'm making fun because he points that out about me a lot as well.

[HeyRiles]

It's incredibly frustrating for me, I'll admit. My standards in the physical department and the personality department seem to never match up with anyone.

Is it odd that I don't feel like I really set my standards? What I mean is, I feel like they were set for me.

You mean like, your personality dictated what you wanted rather than you sitting down and thinking about what you really wanted? Nah, I feel that same way too. To me, it's a girl that's shorter than me, is at least cute, and has great morals, emphasis on the morals

It's frustrating now, but you'll have to believe that when you DO find a girl that matches your standards, it's definitely going to be that much more special than if you had lower standards

[TheCrimsonSaint]

I suppose that "special" is one word for it...

[Ultimatum]

That doesn't really suck in my opinion. It just means that you have standards that most 17 year olds don't seem to possess. Just make sure you maintain those standards and never let them slide for anyone. Someone awesome will come around eventually. It just takes a lot of patience and determination.:)

Yeah, should have phrased that differently. The only thing that really sucks about it is I have to wait another year and a half before I can find people that are like me, when I eventually go off to college. Meanwhile, I just need to hope the next girl I like doesn't hurt me like I've been hurt in the past.

My most recent ex and I are friends now though. Might end up as good friends, which would be nice.

[Elegy]

People don't really change when they get to college bro. But they will at least be a higher number of good people. Maybe. I don't really know anymore..

[Ultimatum]

Not really looking for people to change, just more people like me, because there sure as hell aren't many of them at my school.

From what I understand a lot of people are more mature in college too, so there's that to look forward to, but it's more for a fresh start, and I just hate the way how it's so damn cliquey at a high school, especially one that's smaller than most.

[afterstasis]

things are bound to get a bit better in college, but don't expect too much...
i did and though i met my first boyfriend and best friend to this day, it was indistinguishable from my backwoods high school 99% of the time.

[Ultimatum]

Well, it's going to be a big difference from my smallish private high school. Likely an entirely different crowd of people.

[daftuprising]

College won't be that much different. You get a crowd of MORE immature people, and a lot of people party. There is someone out there for you, you just have to kee pyour eyes open. And hint, someone may not meet all your standards at first, but give them a chance, they might surprise you.

I dated a girl named Shelby who seemed awesome, but she cheated on me and told 6 guys she'd break up with me for them. Then there are some people I never thought I'd fall for and then I'd be happiest with them.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

If college isn't better than high school I might throw myself off a cliff. Convenient because I'm going to school in the mountains.

[HMXThrasher]

One is not supposed to ask one's friends out. One is supposed to ask them out on first meet, then if it doesn't work out or they're not interested, become friends. Well, it's easier that way, anyway. One can't keep one's wanting to go out with someone a secret while friends and then just pop out with it from left field one day. This does spell disaster.

Actually, my boyfriend and I were friends for quite a long time before he looked at me one day and said: "I want to take you out for a date. A real date."

So I said yes, and we went on our real date. It was awesome. Years later we're still together and still best friends.

(Such a cheesey overshare I know - but it never hurts to just be bold and lay things out there for someone).

[jonoo24]

When I say child, jonoo, I meant trident. Not everything is directed at you, hun.

D:

[tridentgum0]

When I say child, jonoo, I meant trident. Not everything is directed at you, hun.

And you're a dumbo-head.

[neckermanncj]

Actually, my boyfriend and I were friends for quite a long time before he looked at me one day and said: "I want to take you out for a date. A real date."

So I said yes, and we went on our real date. It was awesome. Years later we're still together and still best friends.

(Such a cheesey overshare I know - but it never hurts to just be bold and lay things out there for someone).

that's really inspiring, thanks! :)

[jonoo24]

Girl #2 just asked me who i like, after i found out she's going to an upcoming dance with this very large wreslting guy who could easily hurt me badly.

Advice?

[TheCrimsonSaint]

Gotta drop a hint. A very, very subtle one. Make it so that she's the one who has to acknowledge whether or not she might have feelings for you. You could just tell her straight up, and that could turn out very well, but that's up to your discretion about Mr. Wrestler.

[jonoo24]

Gotta drop a hint. A very, very subtle one. Make it so that she's the one who has to acknowledge whether or not she might have feelings for you. You could just tell her straight up, and that could turn out very well, but that's up to your discretion about Mr. Wrestler.

I keep saying no one. Mr wrestler is very large, and muslim.

Also, i think they're just going to the dance (feb 27) So i think i'll tell her after, if they aren't dating.

[jonoo24]

Also, She just told me the person she liked is a "secret", she has had no problem telling me the two times before a couple months ago, so my hopes are overly high.

[TheCrimsonSaint]

I'd say make a move. **** Mr. Wrestler. You're gonna piss some people off in life. Might as well be someone it doesn't sound like you like very much anyways.

[Ultimatum]

College won't be that much different. You get a crowd of MORE immature people, and a lot of people party. There is someone out there for you, you just have to kee pyour eyes open. And hint, someone may not meet all your standards at first, but give them a chance, they might surprise you.

I dated a girl named Shelby who seemed awesome, but she cheated on me and told 6 guys she'd break up with me for them. Then there are some people I never thought I'd fall for and then I'd be happiest with them.

Yeah, I know about the party people, they're not my crowd anyway.

I've had that happen to me already. I will admit that I have to have some physical attraction at first, but I didn't even really find my ex all that appealing until I started talking to her. I don't really ever cross out people for good, but if they're part of some clique or something I don't really agree with, I probably wouldn't really talk to them unless if they showed interest in me and were the sort of person I liked.

[NoMoreVillains]

Me and my inability to give up...

I told myself that I was done with this relationship business, but I just wouldn't listen to myself. I'm still interested in my friend. She is somebody I actually feel comfortable around and can freely talk with. This is rather unique since this villain is somebody who doesn't really trust many people and is rather quiet most of the time.

I resolved to ask her out. I'm taking the first opportunity I can get to ask her if she is seeing anybody. Whatever happens, there will be no regrets. I realize it's better to risk a bit of embarrassment by asking than never ask and wonder what could have been.

"Courage is the magic that turns dreams into reality"

[Sarge51]

I need to make it a point to stop mentioning past girlfriends when talking to a potential future girlfriend. Especially when things are going well.

[Ultimatum]

That's a big no-no. Even when my ex mentioned her ex's, I never really talked about mine.

Anywho, met a girl over the weekend, got her number, talking a little bit and hopefully she's an interesting person. I met her at a Speech and Debate tournament and talked to her for at least an hour there, after she initiated contact. She has some of that serious side that I've been missing in my past girlfriends, so here's to hoping it works out. I think I overheard some of her friends mention how she thought I was cute, and she thinks it's awesome I'm a musician and songwriter, so sounds like it's off to a good start.

[aggiesrul8]

In regards to standards as discussed a few pages back, I'm the guy that my buddies still laugh about in that department. The statement "After midnight, my standards drop by the hour" would be very appropriate.

Mentioning ex-girlfriends is not good. I still remember (interestingly enough) when I had dated a girl my Sophomore year in college (in 2002, for reference) and I said something about my ex-girlfriend having a child (she was a high school flame and we dated for about 2 weeks when I went off to college, and she was still in high school, so didn't work out that great). My college friend went postal and told me to quit talking about her. Interesting...

[Wiiman95]

I had Girlfriend a few years back, but she moved over he summer without telling anyone. Not even the school. Neddless to say, we're no longer together. I am currently single and happy with it. :)

[jonoo24]

Girl #2, does NOT like me.

[NoMoreVillains]

Why does it have to be so hard to ask a girl out? I had two opportunities today and I blew them both.
1. Right after lunch, I was walking with her on the way to her class. I came so close, but I freaked out because two people were right behind us.
2. I waited in the library so I could talk with her after her class. I see her and exit the library with her 30 feet in front of me. Then I told myself, "Not now". I just let her be.

Right now, I'm contemplating texting her to see if we can talk. If not, my next time I'll see her is Wednesday. I swear I will put myself in a position in which I will have to ask her out.

Now excuse me as I berate myself.

[Ultimatum]

It's only hard because you make it hard on yourself.

I'm shy as hell, but I'm pretty confident in who I am and that seems to make it easier. I have no problem asking a girl out as long as I know her and talk to her. Just reassure yourself.

DON'T do it over text. The only time I'd advise it is if you never get to see the person, and even then it's better to call. Take your shot tomorrow, do it in person.

[NoMoreVillains]

It'll be Wednesday. If we don't walk together after lunch, then I'll wait for her after class. I'll just stay outside next time.

[Sarge51]

I never have the problem of asking a girl out. Usually the girls I talk to end up asking me out. Which is weird, because I'm not the cutest or sexiest man on the block. I don't know if it's something about me that brings that out in them or if the girls I end up talking to are just the types that go for something when they want it.

Which is good for me. I like a girl that knows what she wants and tries to get it. I don't like it when they try to move the relationship forward too fast, though. I think that's why my last relationship failed. We moved into things too quickly.

[Banky71]

I never ask girls out. They usually just end up at my house the next morning and I ackwardly try to find a way to get them to leave.

[Sarge51]

I never ask girls out. They usually just end up at my house the next morning and I ackwardly try to find a way to get them to leave.

Tell them the house is burning down. Then lock the door when she goes outside.

[NoMoreVillains]

I see a potential problem if said girl left something in your house and she notices that there is no smoke.

[Banky71]

I don't mind if they make breakfast or something! My problem is sometimes they stay for days. It really makes me wonder what I say my drunken night before.

[TheBlank101]

So, I'm again on the Rock Band General forums for more advice...

this time, I am wondering about flirting. Yes, I know, completely off-topic but I am so confused and no one is able to help me. >.<

My girlfriend has a few guy friends who, at some point before, have tried to "get" with her. However, she is still friends with them and they still try to flirt with her.

On Facebook, directly on her Wall, one of them constantly calls her a cutie and she responds just like its nothing.

I'm not too fond of it but I don't know if it's fine or not... but I mean, if I had a GIRL calling me that and I was in a relationship I would stop them immediately. I just don't know... is it considered flirting, and is it okay if they say that stuff and she doesn't say anything to stop it but doesn't necessarily flirt back..?

I am just confused.


Here's something that was posted by him today, but I changed the names for privacy!!

Guy: pfffft at what> if its anything, your jelouse of my charming good looks cutieeeeeee
My girlfriend: :P yea ok Guy!
Guy: lmao you know im right

[Sarge51]

Well, I was going to reply before the thread got closed. :p

There's a fine line between flirting and complimenting someone. This guy sounds like a flirt. But he's kind of bad at it. Why would he say, "you're just jealous of my good looks" implying that she's not as good looking as him, then roll out with "cutieeeee". O.o

I think your gal is too smart to fall for it, though.

[Ultimatum]

Sounds harmless.

[Banky71]

How old are you?

[TheBlank101]

I know he's a weird guy and he doesnt give a damn that shes in a relationship with someone but...

gah! what do I do!? I don't mind her having guy friends but when they do that? I just wish she would tell them off... makes me feel like she doesn't care if other guys do that, or maybe she likes it... I don't know what to do :(

and I'm 17.

[Banky71]

Tell the guy to stay away from your Kool-Aide!

[Sarge51]

I know he's a weird guy and he doesnt give a damn that shes in a relationship with someone but...

gah! what do I do!? I don't mind her having guy friends but when they do that? I just wish she would tell them off... makes me feel like she doesn't care if other guys do that, or maybe she likes it... I don't know what to do :(

and I'm 17.

Here's a thought. Be a man and talk to her about it. If you tell her what you just said it'll show that your truly care for her. Of course, you have to be careful to not sound jealous. Just imply that you would like it if she told them to stop that and let them know she's already in a relationship. Tell her to let you know that she cares about the relationship you have just as much as you do.

[Lily_Mu]

Well, I was going to reply before the thread got closed. :p

There's a fine line between flirting and complimenting someone. This guy sounds like a flirt. But he's kind of bad at it. Why would he say, "you're just jealous of my good looks" implying that she's not as good looking as him, then roll out with "cutieeeee". O.o

I think your gal is too smart to fall for it, though.

He should try the Indie Xbox game :P

[TheBlank101]

Here's a thought. Be a man and talk to her about it. If you tell her what you just said it'll show that your truly care for her. Of course, you have to be careful to not sound jealous. Just imply that you would like it if she told them to stop that and let them know she's already in a relationship. Tell her to let you know that she cares about the relationship you have just as much as you do.

I have told her before.

She says she's tried to stop him but it doesn't work and she has said "It's just who he is."

Is that a reasonable excuse? Like if she REALLY didn't want it, she could just stop talking to him completely. But he just keeps on doing it and doing it.

This guy has also made moves on her, even while he knew she was in a relationship. So.. yeah.

I have talked with her before and she says not to worry about it. But it just pisses me off how he keeps going.. and for all the world to see, too.

[Ultimatum]

He's a friend that's somewhat of a jerk, that's it really.

[TheBlank101]

He's a friend that's somewhat of a jerk, that's it really.

I know they are friends, and she has even said he is a jerk... but.. I don't know. :( I just want her to understand how it feels to see another guy saying that to her in the wide open...

I mean, I can take it so that I know she's mine and she's just being "complimented", and maybe he's jealous over me. And I should be happy I do have her.

And I am! I just can't help but feel some upset when I see that... be them friend or not. :(

[Cpt. Overkill]

I know he's a weird guy and he doesnt give a damn that shes in a relationship with someone but...

gah! what do I do!? I don't mind her having guy friends but when they do that? I just wish she would tell them off... makes me feel like she doesn't care if other guys do that, or maybe she likes it... I don't know what to do :(

and I'm 17.

You're having a fit over nothing.

[TheBlank101]

You're having a fit over nothing.

Am I?

Well, I'm not FITTING. But I am kinda confuzzled in all this.

Should I just drop this where it stands now before I do anything drastic? >.<