Child-to-Parent Advice Needed!!

[TheBlank101]

I am a 17-year-old male living with his mom, and his dad. On and off, because of a divorce.

I have a girlfriend who goes to college, and I haven't seen her in five weeks.

However, I was invited to visit her this coming Valentines weekend, for the weekend. I just don't know what I should say to my mom to allow her to understand that it'll be ok if I do go...

I will be on my own in less than six months, as I am going to university.
And she has said I could've gone before, as longas I proved myself "responsibly".

I just want to talk to her about it and try to convince her without forcing it upon her like its a demand... I just want her to understand I want to have my own freedom and be able to be me; not just see my girlfriend.

Any advice from you guys on what I can do?:(

[maitee1]

Be honest. Tell them you would like to visit your girlfriend. Provide your itinerary (driving time, where you will be staying, rest stops). Have a contigency plan if something goes wrong during your trip. Let them know you will call when you arrive and certain check-in times (if it is a must). And be prepared to answer questions, but also be prepared to be told no.

[Jixzer]

As a father of 4, you're best bet is to be up front and honest with her. Tell her where you wish to go and why. Tell her your plans, and why you think you are responsible enough to go. If she says no, accept it. Don't whine and fill her ears with a lot of "buts". Trust me, accepting her decision, rational or not, will go a long way in earning her trust. It takes a good amount of maturity to accept and answer/decision contrary to your wishes without a lot of fuss.

Good Luck.

[plague]

Show her your box of condoms and read the directions aloud. That's what I would do, and that's the kind of advice you get here. Oh, and promise not to drink.

[Chuck_Fiasco]

I would just say "F%#k it" and go. How can a person ground/punish a 17 year old?

[athenahollow]

I would just say "F%#k it" and go. How can a person ground/punish a 17 year old?

I was going to say "This^" but my friend was grounded at 19.... *shakes head* I guess it really depends on how much you rely on your parents and how much you fear them haha

[rgdrafting]

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Be honest. Tell them you would like to visit your girlfriend. Provide your itinerary (driving time, where you will be staying, rest stops). Have a contigency plan if something goes wrong during your trip. Let them know you will call when you arrive and certain check-in times (if it is a must). And be prepared to answer questions, but also be prepared to be told no.

....and this also....


As a father of 4, you're best bet is to be up front and honest with her. Tell her where you wish to go and why. Tell her your plans, and why you think you are responsible enough to go. If she says no, accept it. Don't whine and fill her ears with a lot of "buts". Trust me, accepting her decision, rational or not, will go a long way in earning her trust. It takes a good amount of maturity to accept and answer/decision contrary to your wishes without a lot of fuss.

Good Luck.

I would also add, that if she does say no (which is likely), WITHOUT whining or complaining, ask her to tell you under what conditions would she be more likely to say yes. Tell her that you're willing to accept her decision, but that you'd like to know what would make her more at ease for in the future...even after you've turned 18.

Also, make sure she understands that, even though you'll be "legal" very soon, you'd still like for her to approve of your decisions as an adult. The key is to make sure you do try to do the things that she expects of you.....

And be prepared to not see your GF for V-day.... You should also tell your GF the situation and let her know that you're not going against your mother's wishes because you want your mom to be happy with your choices and more accepting in the future. Girls eat that stuff up, she'll probably get a warm-fuzzy when you tell her.

Good luck.