Well, I finally came to terms with my root problem, and deep down, I knew it was the cause but I tried to make up other nonexistent problems to hide it. Big surprise coming from how the problem itself was hidden: This was me, whether I like it or not.

I knew the guilt was real but I was mislabeling it on purpose. I know Cipher mentioned it, and I was really bothered when he suggested it, but I guess that's the first sign of it being the truth. It does feel pretty awful to come to terms with it as part of me, but not life ending worthy, since I know I don't have to be that way forever. I'm not going to blame this on my "confusing" age or natural chemical reactions, because I was the one that tried to justify it all in a horrible way.

I'm sorry, Jessie.

yeah Sarah I have a problem. I said alot of wrong things to my parents today. I called them many times and apoligized but I still feel bad. I shouldn't have said what I did. I'm just stupid sometimes and I say things I should not. How did I get in this mess. I hate I disrespected my parents.

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Originally Posted by Rock_Starman

Though I didn't quote your other comment as I didn't think I had anyththing to say about it,just being a friend to someone can be more effective than paying for some expensive therapist to prescribe drugs that don't actually do anything to fix the problem. Particularly when some people just need to know someone cares about them.

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But that doesn't mean some of us don't have organic, biological deficits that can be corrected by therapy and medication.

Trust me.

I'm having trouble comprehending that sentence because of the double negatives, but if it's what I think you're saying, I'm pretty sure this is a thread for emotional and trauma problems over physical shortcomings

It's a brain thing.

I just get a little wary of people saying "All you need is a friend who will listen to you" when, actually, some of the time that's not even close to enough.

It's a nice thought, and I know his heart's in the right place, but it can stop people from getting the help they really do need.

I don't think it's fair to say whose advice isn't good. In fact, I don't like the idea of this topic as a public thread because most advice will have contradictions from multiple posters. I mean, I find half the advice in this thread stupid so far but I'm not so callous as to outright refute or inadvertently contradict it. Even if I don't agree with it, if it works, who cares? At the very least it's better than confusing people by telling them two completely different pieces of advice. I don't consider it any more heartless to tell someone they need professional help versus telling them they should eat an ice cream cone with someone they can laugh with, but people contradicting one another by saying one is better than the other and the other is better than one simultaneously certainly doesn't help clear up a person's foggy mind when they're already trying their best to decipher a problem

I don't remember where I was going with this

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I don't think it's fair to say whose advice isn't good. In fact, I don't like the idea of this topic as a public thread

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Bullseye.

None of us are counselors (unless someone is). For some people, "have a Coke and a smile" is enough. For some, it's not. And you can't tell the difference in somebody's textual message.

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But that doesn't mean some of us don't have organic, biological deficits that can be corrected by therapy and medication.

Trust me.

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Though I'm not comfortable using the word "deficit" in this context, you're absolutely correct. Peer advice should never be substituted for genuine therapy.

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Though I'm not comfortable using the word "deficit" in this context, you're absolutely correct. Peer advice should never be substituted for genuine therapy.

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Not everyone can afford genuine therapy though. For those that can't, advice from random people or just talking it out could help.