This Might Not Work

[sillystou]

i read on google that a man made a flying pig.
turned out to be bull****.

i'm sure there are some women who like that. but no, not all of us

That's true. You can't generalize and say that all women prefer bad men. Some do, some don't.

[www1221]

That's true. You can't generalize and say that all women prefer bad men. Some do, some don't.

and I perfer the latter. I cant stand guys that are *******s let alone ******* to women. :@

[Bulzeeb]

so her bf is a dick.

and you blame yourself?

No, that's the part I don't understand. She could have a dependency issue like me, but a more likely solution is the combined factors of this being her first relationship and how long they've been together.

[Bulzeeb]

i read on google that a man made a flying pig.
turned out to be bull****.

i'm sure there are some women who like that. but no, not all of us

The distinction I see between those two stories is that one is a general figure of speech expressing doubt and the other is a media persona expressed so heavily that it has become a big enough reality where columnists are writing about nice guys and bad boys as a typical archetype of relationship material.

[Cipher_Peon]

That was probably when a selfish seed became deeply planted in my future words and actions of support. I feel sick at myself since I even told her that what I was saying didn't have some sort of hidden objective to make her mine, but the seed was still there, even hidden from me at the moment due to me lying to myself. I know most of my words had pure intentions since I told her of a similar experience, an indifference of love that I told you all months ago, to help relate to her current pain. We were actually spending time together one-on-one two nights ago just talking about it and both my counselor as well as my older, wiser friend told me what I was at the time: A Sound Board.

She asked for my "guy's opinion" on the matter and I tried to keep it as objective as possible without my own selfish influence corrupting her thoughts. She was heavily distracted that night as we wandered around the night lit, outdoor mall complex, even apologizing for her sporadic jumping of thoughts between the merchandise we were looking at to her boyfriend's behavior. Still, I had offered to let her vent her feelings out to me to gain a therapeutic sort of relief, so I expected as much would be the primary topic of the night. She seemed happy and was having a good time after feeling thoroughly "miserable" after hearing the news. We even got some texts from her BF saying that he can talk next week (when it's convenient for him, not because she's in pain now.) Hearing that sort of response seriously pissed me off.

Holy crap.
Dude. You're a ****ing dude who wants to get in her pants.
Don't act high and mighty because you don't want your horniness getting in the way of giving good advice. Whether you like it or not, you WANT to be with her, and trying to avoid getting to the point of what would make YOU happy is stupid. On one hand, trying to fight your feelings will make you feel upset that you lost your chance in the future. On the other hand, trying to fight your feelings will give you conflicting feelings on whether or not your selfishness is affecting your advice.

Either way, you end up miserable. Stop it. Just stop.
Try to go for it and if she rejects you then life moves on. There's other girls out there.
Right now she's putting you in the deep friend zone and the only thing you're doing is digging your own ditch and getting more miserable that you're not digging it fast enough.

If she likes you, you know what would make her happy? You.

Even if it's selfish to go after her now, who gives a ****?
YOU want to be happy and there's a chance for you to be happy right now and you're letting it slip by because of fearing your own human nature. Guess what? Wanting to be happy is selfish. Your happiness will cause someone else to be unhappy. Deal with it. Try to be happy on your own, and don't let your fear of being selfish take that away from you.

I read on yahoo the otherday bruther women don't like soft dudes. They want them to be a dick dude. For some reason women like that bruther.

No, most girls like confidence.
The thing is the guys who are dicks are the ones who are confident in who they are and what can they achieve. The nice guys are generally the ones who be nice to a girl just to try to get with her and then cry about being friendzoned because to them being nice to a girl means that they deserve her.

I'm not saying that Bulzeeb is this, but if you want to be with her then be honest about it and go for it. Being a friend ISN'T good enough, no matter how much you tell yourself that. So at least try. If you fail, then you can sleep comfortably at night without thinking "what if?" and know that you actually tried to achieve your own happiness.

[LiveHomeVideo]

Are you sure she's happy with him? In the case of the pregnent girl I mentioned, she was afraid to leave him. Maybe that's how it is here, and she's disguising it as love.

Don't blame yourself. Just try to make yourself happy for once. Find that thing that you find joy in, and persuit it, rather than trying to make people happy that maybe don't need to be happy.

[jibjqrkl]

can't believe i'm saying this

but Cipher is right!

*washes mouth*

[Cipher_Peon]

can't believe i'm saying this

but Cipher is right!

*washes mouth*

Damn straight I'm right.
Like always :3

[sillystou]

Don't push your luck.

[MagicMurderBag7]

Damn straight I'm right.
Like always :3

Tuna = ravioli because they both come in a can...


But in all seriousness, that was some good advice from Cipher.