This Might Not Work

[bigmf]

Holy crap.
Dude. You're a ****ing dude who wants to get in her pants.
Don't act high and mighty because you don't want your horniness getting in the way of giving good advice. Whether you like it or not, you WANT to be with her, and trying to avoid getting to the point of what would make YOU happy is stupid. On one hand, trying to fight your feelings will make you feel upset that you lost your chance in the future. On the other hand, trying to fight your feelings will give you conflicting feelings on whether or not your selfishness is affecting your advice.

Either way, you end up miserable. Stop it. Just stop.
Try to go for it and if she rejects you then life moves on. There's other girls out there.
Right now she's putting you in the deep friend zone and the only thing you're doing is digging your own ditch and getting more miserable that you're not digging it fast enough.

If she likes you, you know what would make her happy? You.

Even if it's selfish to go after her now, who gives a ****?
YOU want to be happy and there's a chance for you to be happy right now and you're letting it slip by because of fearing your own human nature. Guess what? Wanting to be happy is selfish. Your happiness will cause someone else to be unhappy. Deal with it. Try to be happy on your own, and don't let your fear of being selfish take that away from you.


No, most girls like confidence.
The thing is the guys who are dicks are the ones who are confident in who they are and what can they achieve. The nice guys are generally the ones who be nice to a girl just to try to get with her and then cry about being friendzoned because to them being nice to a girl means that they deserve her.

I'm not saying that Bulzeeb is this, but if you want to be with her then be honest about it and go for it. Being a friend ISN'T good enough, no matter how much you tell yourself that. So at least try. If you fail, then you can sleep comfortably at night without thinking "what if?" and know that you actually tried to achieve your own happiness.

With this post, I'll always believe that the "I don't get it at all" Cipher is an act.

All the ****ty things going on right now will pass, Bulzeeb, and great happiness will come in time. It did for me.

[Bulzeeb]

Was my honesty not clear enough when I asked her out months ago? The only reason she gave me was because of her relationship. It's rapidly falling apart. She would rather stick to someone she never sees and who doesn't want to see her over me.

I lost against drugs.

And now I lose against non-love altogether.

Those are the facts, and I'm the only common denominator from those two specific scenarios and other lesser ones as well.

[jibjqrkl]

Was my honesty not clear enough when I asked her out months ago? The only reason she gave me was because of her relationship. It's rapidly falling apart. She would rather stick to someone she never sees and who doesn't want to see her over me.

I lost against drugs.

And now I lose against non-love altogether.

Those are the facts, and I'm the only common denominator from those two specific scenarios and other lesser ones as well.

no it wasn't enough, because back then she was happy with her boyfriend, unlike now.

you're not losing against anything expect yourself. it's this way of thinking that's ****ing you up. nothing else.

[Bulzeeb]

I wasn't in this negative mindset until I saw the familiar signs that I was just temporary relief... Again. I was genuinely happy she asked me to hang out because of all the times before where I liked someone, that had never happened, especially since she told me her BF wanted time away. I thought that would be the difference between all the one way feelings of past endeavors and some actual two way interest right here and right now. But, I was wrong.

I didn't believe what Cipher said to be true, but now that I see more people supporting it, I feel like dying more than ever now.

[jibjqrkl]

are you actually trying to feel worse?

you just keep looking at every slightly bad part in each post, and turning it into something where you can blame yourself.

you're just destroying yourself, and it hurts me a lot to see anyone do that

[MagicMurderBag7]

You need to get over it and realize that your problem isn't so bad.

[Bulzeeb]

You guys can relax. I feel a lot of things that never actually happen. I'm not going to off myself, but that's mainly because the means of doing so are physically impossible. It's a nice method though, one where no one ends up hurt and everyone wins.

[MagicMurderBag7]

There is no means of killing yourself that end up not hurting someone. It's a selfish act.

[Bulzeeb]

Which is why my method is physically impossible and there's no real reason to worry. Besides, all my counselors have told me to stop living for other's sake and be a bit more selfish for what I want.

Nobody dies in my method really. That's not some play-on words of calling myself "Nobody" either.

[jibjqrkl]

I don't really care. i still think I need to help you.