my love is like a candle, if you forget me, i will burn your damn house down.
can you give me advice on how to fix my air conditioner.
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I don't want to get too antagonistic, but he has to grow up someday right? The longer he goes without any responsibilities the harder it’s going to be for him to change.
If it was me, a) He’d be paying rent and/or bills, as an adult with time on his hands he’s perfectly capable of working more. b) He’d be doing chores around the house. (Excuse me if he is, but Sleeping/computer doesn’t sound like it.) And if he didn’t do either I would be kicking him out, but if you truly can’t consider the possibilities of a bluff.
I don’t want to speak on your case, but I’ve seen several similar cases where the parents were enablers. One so bad that, a women I’m acquainted with is in her 40s, unmarried, unable to get a job, and basically as helpless as a preteen. She’s a complete drain on society. It’s a horrible thing to think about but who would support him if you and your husband had an accident? He sounds very unprepared for the real world.
Well when he got his 1st paycheck which was $200 some odd dollars, ( he was in training so he got more hours) he gave us $100, but now his checks are around $80 for every 2 weeks. The money isnt as much the issue ( it is a factor) but, my biggest priority is getting his education finished. I'm tempted to just get him to take the GED. Pass or fail, he will have at least tried and gotten some idea what is expected of him.
This is his first job and he has no other work experience so he needs to hang on to this one. Jobs are hard to come by these days. Esp. with all the recent graduates applying now. If for no other reason then to beef up his resume. But, getting him in school is my first objective. He wants to work in HVAC. So, he will need schooling.
I'm not saying that money is an issue, but the responsability of getting the money is.
The best thing my father ever did for me is make me work a crappy dead end job that exhausted and irrated me to no end in my teenage years, because I quickly relalized that I didn't want to spend my life doing that. The only way for me to get out of it was to get an education. That motivated me far more than anything else he could have done.