Relationship Opinions Survey

[J2879]

I'm looking for impartial opinions on a certain relationship subject.

Please limit posts in this thread to answers pertaining to the original post.

Also, please post your age and gender at the top of your response.

I'll explain my reasonings for this later in the week.

-j.

Question:

In a long term relationship, what would you think if your partner started to make new friends - but would not allow you to meet those friends, or hang out with the group?
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[ffwarrior47]

Male, 16.

uhh, it wouldn't bother me much, since i really trust my girlfriend, but if i felt like something was wrong, i'd just talk to her about it, and if worst comes to worst, i'd have to do some spy work, and possibly leave her.

[MeleeMan]

Male, 14

My girlfriend does this and I am starting to get a little annoyed. If I were you I would sit down with her and ask her why you can't meet these people.

[topperharley]

Male, 38

Not ever? That would be wrong. I support having lives outside of the one you share, but if you prohibit the person you're seeing in a relationship from seeing your friends, there's something wrong there.

[gosox333]

I would get suspicious and ask them what's up. That's a wierd situation. Maybe they're into something that your partner thought you wouldn't like?

[iamdownhere]

Male 35

You should at least meet them once. I had a girlfriend who did kind of the same thing and then used it as an excuse to break up because i wasn't trying to make friends with them!!!???!!!

If you get that gut feeling that something isn't right then talk about how you feel.

[Mex]

In a long term relationship, what would you think if your partner started to make new friends - but would not allow you to meet those friends, or hang out with the group?
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Male, 29.

Relationship over. I don't have time or patience for stupid games.

[visualdeity]

Male, 23.

If I had been given no reason to mistrust my partner, I wouldn't be suspicious of this activity. I might feel a bit hurt that she didn't want to include me, and try to see if I needed to feel concerned about that (eg, is she just trying to get an escape from me because I suck at my end of the relationship?).

If the girl had given me reason to not trust her, well, I probably wouldn't be dating her, but if I was idiotic and decided to keep her after she broke my trust, I'd definitely be suspicious about this development.

[ppetrovi]

Male 25.

Depends on the trust level. If my girlfriend did that, I would think it was weird I guess. But she does everything with her family anyways, so I dont have to worry about it.....yet!?

[Daesania]

24, Female.

I guess for me, thats some serious issues there.. If they didnt want me to be meeting their new friends, that means A) Something shady is going on, B) They are ashamed of me, or C) all of the above. I'd rather hang out with them all, and I encourage that with all my relationships.